Blogosphere Inquiry

I posted this on Facebook, where I will probably get more responses, but I’ll post it here, too, in case there are people who aren’t on Facebook who know me and would like to respond. I hope by appealing to a people with whom I have worked in groups I can zero in on areas of teamwork that I need to improve. Because there are always things I want to improve.

Self-inventorying here and asking a huge favor of those who want to help. Please list ways I have been a team player. In your examples, identify strengths and weaknesses in my group work. Go back to elementary school, girls camp, whatever your experience with me has been. Be as specific as possible. You may send a private message or email if you’re more comfortable responding that way.

Thanks, I owe you a cookie.
Love, May

Your responses can be very useful to me, as I am more naturally introverted and work hard to find different ways to make it look easy to go beyond myself. Maybe I will list responses as part of another blog post and the introspection will deepen and I will reemerge better than I was before. We’ll see.

Link to Engagement Photos

I promise there’s an engagement story.

I promise to write it.

But for now, you’ll have to settle for engagement photos.
Sorry to disappoint you. 😉

My good friend Heather took these.
Do you have any favorites?
Let me know in the comments.

Let’s Start Circulating Rumors and True Stuff


Don’t we look amazing together?

For the 5 regular followers of this blog, you know it’s March Madness, and maybe you know basketball is one of my favorite sports. You probably also know I attend a university that seems to be doing well in the NCAA tournament so far, and I like when people do well. And I support the fans who support our excellent teams.

We have really creative fans. Maybe too many. Which is why I need your help.

If you’re on facebook, you should take this poll and vote for your favorite fan sign: and/or here

If you’re not on facebook, you should take this poll and vote for your favorite fan sign:

Fun stuff, eh? The polls will be open until Friday. Don’t delay.


I don’t have a lot of time to think about awesome answers for this questionnaire that’s due for work on Monday. Because you’re awesome, I’m thinking maybe you could help me with awesome answers. Some of the questions you won’t know/can’t fudge/make fun of the answers, but I know you’ll do your best. Thanks, guys. Have fun.

What other departments/programs/clubs/groups have you been part of while here at Brigham Young University? BYU French Club

Please list some of your hobbies, interests, and skills. live music, movies, clucking like a chicken, playing the clarinet
What is one of your favorite books you’ve read this year? The Road, Cormac McCarthy

Please tell us a little about what you were like as a child or share an interesting story from your childhood.

Please briefly describe one of your greatest achievements in 2010 or one of your best memories from 2010.

Please tell us something very few (if any) people in the department know about you (please feel free to share an embarrassing story).

If you could have a room full of one thing, what would it be?

How long have you worked at [our department]? since Fall 2010

What is something you’ve learned while working at [our department]? the ping-pong schedule

What is the best advice you’ve ever given or received?

Bonus Question: If you have a funny quote from someone at [our department] or a good story of something that’s happened to one of our fellow co-workers, please feel free to share it!

Researching, Measuring Up

So, I have asked people I’ve known around or fewer than five years.

I’ve asked people I’ve known going on twenty years.

The people I’ve known for a shorter time responded relatively quickly.

The people I’ve known longer took some time to think about it.

This seems right, though not entirely reflective of the people themselves. Or of me.

Thanks, all. Maybe I’m just more self-conscious of my height than I thought.

I thought I was more comfortable with it. Maybe I should get some taller shoes.

Dishes Poll Results

When I returned to the apartment Friday afternoon, the sink hadn’t changed. While it didn’t shrink, it also didn’t grow, and I can be grateful for that.

Sometimes I use that task of doing the dishes as a way to clear my mind, to meditate. In the words of Thich Nhat Hanh:

While washing the dishes one should only be washing the dishes, which means that while washing the dishes one should be completely aware of the fact that one is washing the dishes. At first glance, that might seem a little silly: why put so much stress on a simple thing? But that’s precisely the point. The fact that I am standing there and washing these bowls is a wondrous reality. I’m being completely myself, following my breath, conscious of my presence, and conscious of my thoughts and actions.

The Miracle of Mindfulness: An Introduction to the Practice of Meditation

There’s been a lot on my mind lately, and being able to focus on the dishes helps lower my anxiety. Same goes with handwashing my whites.

So. Yeah. When I washed the dishes on Friday, I noted that I might have contributed a butterknife to the pile.

When I think about being maliciously passive aggressive and contemplate leaving piles of dirty dishes on respective roommates’ beds, I also wonder how the apartment would react to a swarm of New York City rats crawling around the sink.

But the girls are busy, and I can understand how dishes aren’t a priority. They’re nice, and generally cheerful, and it’s nice when we all happen to be home at the same time and can talk for a little bit. As I rinsed the dishes and loaded the dishwasher last Sunday, someone thanked me, and it was nice. I think I grunted, but not in a mean way.

Maybe I was too focused on the task.


Well, some questions have crept up among friends in the time I’ve lived here. It’s kind of pointless posting polls, considering my readership is almost solely friends that I know here in the city. The same four friends. But maybe you’ll pass the questions along, because I’m trying to gather enough data for … something.

You’ll be able to tell right off how important these questions are. Just trying to see exactly how strong your opinions are. If you want, justify your votes in the comments.

Have you ever had the Oreo cookie conversation with me? How do you feel about the cream (creme) in the middle? What do you prefer, the perfect proportions of the regular, or peeling a layer of wax and/or lard from your tongue from the Double Stuf? Also, how do you dunk your cookies? Discuss.