I’m pregnant. There is a baby in my tummy.
As of today, I’m 14 weeks, one day along. That means about 26 weeks to go. Of course I’m counting weeks. And counting weeks is sort of like waiting for water to boil. Or watching grass grow. It sort of makes the weeks drag, but the days themselves pass quickly. How weird: being pregnant is being in a kind of time dichotomy.
Part of what makes time slow down is how excited we are to grow our little family! Sometime in the middle of March I got the chance to hold a baby who was born a month premature. She was so little, and as I held her, those urges emerged more strongly than usual. I went home that day and talked to Reilly and the conversation went like this:
Me, “I think it’s time for us to have a baby.”
Reilly, “Okay, let’s have a baby.”
And that was that.
As a part of having things to report to my doctor every month, I’ve been noting observations each week of my pregnancy. The following chronology includes a few highlights.
Week 1: My period happens.
Week 2: Magic.
Week 3: Continued magic. And then we make a zygote!
Week 4: I start to experience lower abdominal weirdness that I call “hot stomach.”
Week 5: I miss my period and suspect I’m pregnant. I also start waking up around midnight every night. One night after lying awake for about two hours, I decide to take a home pregnancy test, and this happened:
A faint line is STILL a line, right? I wake up Reilly. We talk and laugh and become giddy. I go back to sleep. Later that morning, we make an appointment for a blood draw the next week.
Week 6: I have a blood test to confirm pregnancy. During a lunch break at work, I call the doctor’s office two days later for the results. From my workspace, everyone in the room can hear everything I say, so I use vaguespeak such as:
- “I had some blood drawn, and I’m calling about the results.”
- “Hmm, I think it’s actually closer to 7.”
- “So, do I need to schedule a follow-up?”
Week 7: Bloating plus my pants do not make a balanced or very comfortable equation.
Reilly smells my forehead and tells me it smells like a baby.
I have begun to pee my pants in very small trickles. This is the most wonderful experience of my pregnancy so far.
I must have orange juice! I go buy a carton and have a drink, and it is the most delicious thing I have ever tasted.
I want Thai food! Reilly takes me to a Thai place, and it’s the most delicious thing I have ever tasted.
Week 8: I want chocolate chip cookies! We pick up ingredients for cookies and bake them. They are the most delicious thing I have ever tasted.
Week 9: Oh, hello, nausea. You do realize I’m trying to sleep, right? It’s 1 and then 2 and then 3 and sometimes 4 in the morning. I grab a snack and sip of water and often fall asleep in time to wake up. This probably is the most wonderful pregnancy experience I’ve had so far.
And it really would be awesome if I could just stop peeing my pants.
Week 10: I haven’t vomited yet, even though nausea keeps nagging me. But I have started dry heaving, which I guess is better than kneeling at the toilet, blowing chunks.
Reilly is glad that someone is around who now farts more than he does.
I want a Taco Bell quesadilla! Reilly brings one home, and it is the most delicious thing I have ever tasted.
Reilly comes with me to my first official OB appointment. I pee in a cup, which is no problem whatsoever because I am now at least a sporadic trickle-fountain of pee. The doctor examines me; his nurse takes three vials of blood for testing from my arm. THREE! VIALS! That seems like a lot of red from someone who still doesn’t quite weigh 100 pounds. I imagine all that blood is for baby vampires. My contribution to society. The doctor gives me a book, which is super nice of him. When we get home, I flip through the book, and then I immediately hand the book over to Baby so that everyone’s prepared (FYI, the photo is actually from the next week where I have an official ultrasound, but i wanted to feature the book here):
The day after the appointment, I Gchat to some friends the beginning lyrics of Whitney Houston’s “The Greatest Love of All.” I wonder how someone can make the enormous logical jump from me singing, “I believe the children are our future; teach them well, and let them lead the way” to thinking I’m pregnant. Someone who thinks laterally, most likely. If you happened to ask me directly the day after this appointment about my pregnancy, you would have caught me in an especially vulnerable and happy-truth accepting mood, and I would have told you the happy truth.
Week 11: The nausea starts to subside a little, but I’m still dry heaving. Chewing minty gum lessens the nausea, but chewing it too long triggers my gag reflex. It’s annoying.
You’ve figured it out: everything I crave is the most wonderful thing I’ve ever tasted.
One night, I lie in bed, trying to sleep, and Reilly is up doing his homework. He hears me dry heaving and brings me my water bottle full of cold water (which Baby loves), kisses me on the forehead, and asks if I’m okay. And that? Seriously, one of the best experiences of my pregnancy so far. My husband rocks.
We’re not yet ready to announce the pregnancy, so we outright lie to Reilly’s parents so that we can borrow a car for me to go to an ultrasound appointment. Since Reilly can’t be there, I get a little DVD made during the ultrasound so he can see what happened. Under Baby’s direction, I cut five minutes from the original DVD and added a few titles to show you how adorably Baby moves:
Week 12: We tell our families the news. Everyone is excited and congratulates us. I text the announcement and the due date to my brother, and he responds. You probably don’t need me to tell you that the word I smudged begins with an F:
Week 13: This week is the cusp of the first and second trimester. Baby loves fresh foods like salad and homemade meals, but sometimes Wendy’s chicken sandwiches, and ice cream and cream puffs. From the way my stomach feels after I eat, I can tell that Baby does not like onions, broccoli, and olives.
We are grateful for the opportunity to bring life into this world. The prospect of being parents is quite exciting, but I also imagine it to be pretty overwhelming. I wonder once Baby is born, after looking around or even just breathing the air, if Baby’s first cries would sound like, “What the HELL, Mom and Dad?” And then Reilly and I would look at each other with simultaneous worry and assurance and explain that it’s all right, little one. We’re here. We’ll guide you through this mess and teach you to see beauty and goodness. You’ll learn the power of kindness and sympathy and understanding, and you will find joy in this life as we find joy in you. We’ve been praying every night to be prepared to be good parents to you, and we’ve been blessed with tremendous support from the best family and friends in the world. Together, we’ve got this. We’ve got you. We’re so happy you’re here now, though it feels like we’ve already loved you for so long, and we know we can love you beyond forever. Our moments together will pass in a blur and through a slurry, often at the same time. Hang on tight.
26 weeks to go.
13 thoughts on “The First Trimester”
Congrats, May!! Very happy for you!!
Thanks, Chris! I’m so grateful for your excitement and thoughtfulness! I hope all is well with you!
May, congratulations!!!! This is such happy news!!! I’m so excited for you 🙂
Camille, merci beaucoup! Nous sommes très heureux! I hope you’re having so much fun on the East coast!
Thanks, Mel! I hope you are getting sleep in addition to all that fun academic writing you have to do! 🙂
I try… 😛
Congrats!! I when I saw you at Amy’s goodbye party on June 30 I remember thinking that you totally wanted/were ready for a baby based on the way you held my little Adele. And I just counted –that was 14 weeks ago! Neat!! Congratulation!! You and Riley are going to be the best parents!
(Also, I think “What to Expect When You’re Expecting” tends to makes a person feel paranoid about everything. If you find that happening to you, try anything by Ina May Gaskins– she really helped me feel calm, informed, and empowered. But I guess her stuff mostly focuses on labor and delivery more than pregnancy. Good luck!!)
Thanks, Holly! From the way Adele was crying when I held her, I somewhat doubted my readiness for a baby. But I know that she just wanted her mother, and she knew I wasn’t her.
Yeah, I’m not clinging to “What to Expect” as some sort of gospel. I read the part that corresponds to each stage of the pregnancy, and if it correlates to how I feel, cool. I will check out May Gaskins, though, because duh: May. 😉
May, you are supremely funny. So glad you’re procreating; may the wit be passed down.
Thanks, Brittany! Can I just say how thrilled I am for YOU?
Holy moly! Congratulations, May!
Thanks so much, Javen! We are very excited!