Right now I’m working on a couple projects not related to my current courseload. Of course I am.
I was flipping through a little memo pad and found some thoughts that once weighed on my mind. The scale still tips, but not as much.
I’ll respond to myself. The now-me answering the then-me.
What differences are there between what I say and what I mean? I try to be straightforward with my feelings, and I am working on being more open with what’s going on in my life.
If I say I don’t need anything, does that mean tangible things? What about time? Patience? An ability to listen? Do I assume those things are understood? How do I react when I feel no one has enough time for me? I like for people to listen. I like people to ask about my life, though I don’t always ask about others, yet I expect them to share. Is that too much?
How do I accept that it’s not all about me? It sort of still is. Working on getting over it.
How do I accept that I’m not the only/best friend anyone has? I don’t know why this was a problem for me. I don’t have to be anybody’s best friend. But I think the times people have called me their best friend went to my head, and then it seemed all of a sudden I wasn’t their best friend anymore. I didn’t understand why. No one explained anything to me. I felt completely sidelined, but now it doesn’t matter as much.
How do I stop treating people like they’re the only ones I talk to? That’s the thing: I talk to maybe a handful of people on any given day. I’m working on getting a life already.
How do I help my friends? How can I be there for them? They could probably answer this best.