that pronoun may be in either the common or possessive case:
I objected to him coming.
I objected to his coming.
I’m supposed to be studying, I am studying… See?
Traditionally, in formal speech and writing, the rule required the use of the possessive, even though some of the best writers often used the common case or pronoun.
Today, the common case is frequent in general speech and writing. Formal writing still requires the possessive case.
So, the blog I mentioned a few weeks ago upon skimming the Bloggies website, the author and her husband (who I mistook for a practicing Mormon, but he’s left the church, too) went to SXSW in Austin. It’s a giant internet convention. If I were geeky and perhaps a little rich in any way, I would have found a way to go. I know nothing about web design, but I do want to learn someday.
Heather Armstrong left the convention being recognized for having won four (4) Bloggies: Best American Weblog, Best Designed Weblog, Lifetime Achievement Weblog, and Weblog of the year. And for some reason, since her entries are so personal and I’ve been reading the archives from when they began in February 2001, I feel like we’re best friends. But we’re not. She lives in Utah; I used to live there. She and I went to BYU around the same time. We might have been in a Humanities class or at the Wilkinson Student center at the same time. Man, I am such a lame-o.
At least I’m not stalking her.
Also? She’s one of the big, pioneerish stories of someone who’s been fired from her job for writing about it on the internet. Read her post about seeing at SXSW three of the VPs belonging to the company who fired her in 2002.
Anyway, I’m glad I found her site, because the writing is excellent, and she’s pretty much put her entire life online for the entire world to see. I really like the photography, and her stories of motherhood are especially touching. I love reading those accounts where life’s big lessons are learned by mother, father, child; little ol’ person in a great big world. Those stories really affect me. Their effects are powerful.
Affect is most commonly used as a verb, meaning 1) to influence, 2) to stir someone’s emotion, 3) to pretend to imitate.
Effect is most commonly used as a noun, meaning 1) a result, 2) an influence, 3) belongings.
I’ll be posting more photos soon on Flickr.